As I said before - John and I decided to get a new sitter for Colin for when I went back to work full time. As of right now his sister is watching him on a part time basis - and I am not sure if I want into why we were looking for someone else - but it is really just not working out with his sister for many reasons - reasons that I do not really want to go on about on the internet. But the main reason was the distance.
I am basically in the car for two hours a day going between my house - her house and work. It is just too much time spent in the car and too much gas being used. When I was working part time it was okay - because I had the time but now that I am going back to work full time - I want to use my time wisely with my son and that does not include being in the car for two hours a day everyday.
So that is what I told her was the reason why we are going to take him somewhere else - I found a really good person (I hope) she has good reference and a good backround in childhood education and the best part is she is about two minutes from my house and right on my way to work - I could walk there if I wanted to.
So to the point of my post - finally - I told my sister in law last Monday that she will not longer be watching Colin for the above referenced reason. I gave her a two week notice and was very upfront about everything - basically I did it the proper way. At first she was totally fine with it - saying she understood and gave me a hug and said that she will just miss seeing her nephew everyday.
Well fast foward to this week. It is a totally different story - she is very short with me and has Colin all packed up and ready to go and is basically kicking us out the door as soon as I get there - let me tell you that I took literally two steps in the house yesterday - this is not normal behavior for her - she likes to chat and tell me about her day with the kids, etc. This morning was the same thing - she basically walked out of the room when I came in - no good morning - nothing.
Apparently his whole family is now upset with me - because Colin's grandparents will not get to see him everyday as well - and I guess it has finally sunk in to her that she will not be getting paid by me now - who knows. But I need this kind of treatment from family no less like a hole in my head.
I am already nervous about taking him to a stranger next week - and I am only trying to do what is right me my and my family - yet I am hated by everyone right now - I just cannot win. I did not even called her out on the many things that she has been doing wrong and all the other reasons I choose to have her no longer watch my son - I tried to do the right thing and be kind and considerate about it and what do I get in return - the whole family is not speaking to me.
4 comments:
YOU did the right thing! Your SIL is the one that is being difficult and childish. I think she's probably more upset that she's not getting paid anymore.
You are doing what is BEST for your family. Do not worry about what they think. They will come around. You are the parent and they can not influence you by acting childish.
I hope the new sitter works out and that you will enjoy MORE time with Colin now since you don't have to drive 2 hrs everyday!!
The anticipation of leaving him will be worse than actually doing it. You are doing the right thing for your son. Not being in the car and having that extra time with him will be worth it. Hopefully the family drama dies down. Try to focus on the positives of the situation :)
I am new to your blog, but had to mention this to you. We also tried the family watching our kids route. It did not go well. The care the kids received was less than perfect and for us, it was just not acceptable. You are doing the right thing. Dont worry about the new sitter. It will turn into a positive situation for your family and eventually the SIL and others in the family will come around. You have to do what is right with your family. If they can't understand that, well it is best this way regardless then. Keep smilin. It will get better.
I'm sorry you're going through this. but you're doing the right thing and moving C somewhere closer and somewhere that you feel more comfortable leaving him.
Andrea
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