So my husband and I are on the same page - we want to move forward with another fertility treatment. The question now is when?? Originally I was thinking spring - but then I started thinking summer might be better and I just do not know now.
I am starting my design class this coming Monday - it only last until the end of April - so May might be a good time for a FET. But John voiced some concerns about getting our finances in order before doing another treatment. So then I was thinking summer - maybe August might be better for us - that will give us time to get our finances in order and for me to take more design classes and maybe even complete the certification program there.
But my office is moving in August - meaning I have to pack and move - it is a small office and they will ask me to help them and what am I suppose to say (they do not know about IF) I am doing a treatment I need time off and I cannot help you move - that is not going to fly - unless I tell them about IF - which I have not done up until this point and do not intend on doing - ever.
I decided to at least get the ball rolling and made an appointment for March 3rd to talk to the Hemologist about what I need to do to get ready to start treatments again - next would be to contact my RE and discuss what plan of action we are taking for the FET.
Luckily the money is not an issue - as we have had the money in a sperate account since last June for the FET. I am want to move forward and at the same time I am scared to death. Maybe I am finding excuses to push it further down the line out of fear.
So as it is now I am thinking May or August or anywhere in between there. I wish there was someone who would just tell me what the right think is to do - wouldn't that be nice. Someone to tell us what are the right moves to make for our future.
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I wish I could help :) If it were me... I'd do May, for several reasons. #1: You'd be pregnant at move time and have a reason not to help at the same time not needing to tell them about IF. #2 Being due in summer (if you do your cycle in Aug/Sept, your EDD would be May/June. Being overdue and pregnant in hot weather... Not fun (from what I've heard). If you conceived in May, you'd be due just before Spring, so your little one could enjoy the warmer months while you are getting your body back!
And, because I'm not patient, of course, I'd go with May! ;)
Good luck!!!
I say go for May! If you get pregnant, you will have 9 months to get finances in order! :) Also, you will have a good excuse not to help with moving.
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girlie, i think you and john are just scared to death. I would say listen to your body first. If you dont feel physically ready the mental part cant follow. You have done some amazing life changes since January 2010 and you are getting close. I think Michele makes some good points, i barely wore a jacket this winter i was so hot! You will figure out what is right and i think once you make decision and stick with it you will feel better! Lots of thoughts coming your way!
Hello! I'm new to blogging & just started following yours. I just want to say that I've enjoyed reading about your journey, so far! And I wish you the best of everything in whatever decision you choose!
We are having the same issue with deciding when to do our next IVF. It is so hard because it is such a HUGE time commitment. Good luck!
So much of what you said really rang true with me. Everything about cycling is tricky, and laying it on the calendar is the first thing. It's so hard to pick the best time for balancing a cycle plus regular life tasks. And my biggest fear was always picking the right time so that the cycle wasn't a waste- like not wanting to cycle until I know it's God's time too because I don't want to waste my precious freezer babies on a poorly timed cycle. But then when I get the answer, I worry that it's too soon and... AGH! It's so stressful, and it's only the first step of the cycle. ESPECIALLY when timing cycles, I have always wished for that crystal ball.
Your statement about pushing the cycle further away out of fear really hit me because I know I have done that before, and I'm teetering with it now! I just have to hold strong to the confirmation I got about doing a Spring cycle and not let my fear get the better of me. Bleh.
It sounds to me like May works best for your calendar, especially since you won't want to be lifting moving boxes when you have just barely cycled if you do August. But I'm not trying to tell you what to do of course!
GOOD LUCK WITH THE APPOINTMENT TOMORROW! Maybe you'll be able to make the best decision after the appt. Can't wait to hear about it
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