I went for my high risk consult yesterday and it went so badly - the guy was a total insensitive jerk.
First he questioned why I was even there - then he questioned everything I have done up until now.
He said there was no need for genetic testing to be done and that 20% of pregnancies end in miscarriage so I am just one of them and 15% of people have the same blood clotting disorder so I am just one of them as well - nothing special apparently.
He said he did not think I should be on Lovenox - he said that it is as effective as wearing a red hat. He said that there is so many studies and conflicting reports that it basically means it is useless when treating the kind of blood clotting disorder I have and I should go off of it.
He also said that I should not be on Zoloft - he said that any birth defeat damage I did has already happened in the first trimester anyway - he says I should go off of it now and then go back on after the baby is born.
Then he proceeded to talk about my miscarriage - as I am sure many of our readers know we decided not to find out what the sex of the last baby was. Well this jerk told me - he said that the baby was female and that he still think that there may have been problems with the baby - because when they test the tissue sometimes they get a bit of the mother's tissue as well and that may be why it came back normal. So I guess we had a daughter - thanks ass for telling me. Then he said the worse thing of the whole consult - he said it was IVF with crappy sperm - what do you expect.
So basically he said everything I was doing was wrong - if it was so wrong why did two different OB's, my RE and my Hemo doctor never have any problems with what I was doing?? If it is so wrong why did I lose the last baby and this baby so far is doing well??
I am not listening to anything he says - I am not going off the Zoloft or the Lovenox. He did say he wanted an echo heart ultrasound to determine if there is any heart problems with the baby from the Zoloft - so I will get that done - but I will not be seeing him again and I will not be going to a high risk doctor in connection with my OB either.
12 comments:
wow. This further goes to show that graduation from an accredited medical school does NOT a good doctor make.
Maybe they should have a class dedicated to bedside manner and not being a jerk to paying patients.
First, can i have his name so I can go beat him up?? AHHH you have some horrible luck with doctors!!! I just want to scream at them!!!
Second, you rock!!! You are deciding what is best for you and the baby and I think you are amazing! This just shows already what a great mother you are going to be!
Third, a girl. Oh sweet little baby girl how we miss you. I didn't know you were able to find out. (just playing devils advocate here if the tissue was normal and he is thinking its yours then you still don't really know b/c you are a girl).
Either way I am so glad you aren't freaking out (I might have been) and taking charge!! Go Jackie!!!!
What an asshole Jackie! You are doing a great job, don't listen to anything he says.
I had a problem with my first MFM when I was pregnant with Jax. He basically told me he had no idea if Jax was ok or not since I was so sick. That was his official medical opinion.
I loved, loved, loved my second practice. They were the most reassuring people I have ever met. I know it would be a bit of a drive but since you are only going once a month I highly recommend Virtua's MFM practice. I really can't speak highly enough of them.
*Disgust* I'm sorry you had such a terrible experiance.
omg, I cannot beleive it. I would think a high risk dr would be a bit more sensitive. I think what you are doing is right, if all the drs agreed with it except him. I guess it is good to get the ultrasound but you are probably better off without that dr. What about those babies who just happen to have birth defects with no reason, I bet he has nothing to say about that. Or all the babies born completely fine to mothers who were on Zoloft? You are definitely handling this a lot better than I think I would, it just goes to show you how strong of a person you are!
what a jerk! I am sorry you had that experience.
Boo for Dr. Jerkface!!!! Sorry you had to go through that. :(
DO NOT I repeat DO NOT come off of lovenox until that baby is born!!! I have read far too many blogs of women who's high risk doctor said the same shit to them and scared them into coming off lovenox only to have their baby die in utero (most are told for unexplained reasons-one was told blood cots were in the placenta) within a month of coming off Lovenox. We're not talking 6-12 weeks pregnant-22 week, 18 weeks, 28 weeks.
Clearly what you are doing is working-stick to your guns and screw that jack ass!
That is horrible! What an absolutely terrible person and dr. I hope you can find someone who is much more sensitive and can act like a human.
WHAT??! I am appalled. Im so glad you are running out that door and never looking back!
Some of these doctors are such pricks and so high on their house. (I speak from experience also) Go with your gut girl.
What a jerk!! I would actually put a complaint in. That is no way to be treated. I cant believe the way you was spoken to. This has made me so angry.
I am so sorry that it was not a good appointment. I would def demand a second opinion.
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