So my 30th birthday is in two weeks - August 24th and no one is doing anything for my brithday.
My mom always made a huge deal of birthdays - she said everyone should have a cake and at least one gift to open on their birthday. I miss her so much.
Since that is the way I was raised that is the way I feel so of course I make a huge deal out of those who are closest to me on their birthdays. For example, my co-worker turned 50 a couple of months ago and I got her three different presents that she wanted and took her out to dinner. My SIL turned 30 two years ago and I helped set up her whole party - I sent out the invites, made the centerpieces - decorated the hall - everything. My husband 30th birthday was 5 years ago and I had a huge party for him of about 50 people and had it catered and everything - he had no clue and finally - my best friend Ricky - he just turned 30 in June - I not only got him tickets to see Britney Spears in concert - I also surprised him with a leather jacket he had been eyeing and co-hosted his birthday party - again - senting out the invites - paying for the food, etc.
No one is doing anything for my birthday - and it makes me sad. I do not want something huge or anything like that - no party since I am pregnant but I told my husband it would be nice to have a dinner with some people just to celebrate. I was told by both my husband and by my best friend that they do not have any money to do anything for me. Yet my best friend is going down the shore for a week next Tuesday. I just feel hurt - I wish someone would make a little bit of a fuss - especially since it is the big 30!
8 comments:
Maybe they are setting you up for a big surprise.
No one bought me a cake for my last birthday and I cried like a spoilt child. I was so hurt no one got or made me one, when I always make sure I make them one for theirs :(
Let's hope someone is going to surprise you!
Plan something!!! Don't let your birthday go by! If it is important to you, do it, you are worth it!
You seem like a real planner to me, you are always on top of everything for yourself when it comes to baby making, so probably many of your friends and husband rely on you to make the plans. I know myself, I am not a planner, and sometimes don't think enough in advance.
Go ahead and make dinner reservations for your birthday, tell her husband who you want to come (make it a small gathering) and don't go crazy, just something like Outback or Chilis or whatever is around that you like!
Order a cake and tell your hubby to pick it up. I am sure he will find the money for a dinner out and he will be able to cough up $20 for a cake.
I know what its like not to have family, other than your husband and his family, it sucks.
I am sure your friends don't mean anything by being busy or having no money - but everyone needs to eat and everyone enjoys a night out at a restaurant. Even if they don't bring gifts, just the fellowship of friends celebrating YOU is gift enough!
I am sure your pregnancy makes your emotions run a big high too so don't get too down, just make a big deal of yourself! You are important, and make sure your husband and friends know it.
Love you lots
Kimberly Canada
sounds like the perfect set up. $20 says your husband surprises you.
I'm sorry Jackie! I turned 30 on the 1st and could have written the same post. Not only did no one do anything for me, only one of my friends called to say happy birthday and two wrote it on facebook. I was hurt for days, seriously it might be stupid but all I was thinking was a)30 is a big deal and b)we always, always, always do stuff for our friends birthday. I can't imagine not saying it to someone I consider a friend especially in the days of facebook.
I just hijacked your comment, sorry.
I hope they throw you an awesome 30th bday party!
Be careful! Everytime I had a pityparty kind of thing before a birthday that I thought no one was doing anything for, I laughed when I walked through the door and found a surprise party waiting!
It sounds like a surprise to me! I hate surprises though, so if you do too, start planning your own stuff and then someone will have to come forward and tell you about the surprise!
Perhaps you can do a picnic?? Or a movie night? Something inexpensive, or better yet, free. There's lots of options! Hope it's a great one. :)
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