Friday, November 1, 2013

Happy Halloween

Colin had two costumes this year.  The first one was a devil costume we bought for a Halloween party we went to last weekend. 


The yesterday on Halloween he was a tiger.  It was also the first year he went trick or treating - he did great - he picked the candy and put it in his bag - he had a fun time.

Then he was able to enjoy a soy free sucker.



Thursday, October 24, 2013

LAZY

The title needed to be in caps because you do not even understand how lazy DH's family is - they will not help me whatsoever.  There is 5 children - yes 5 children and yet me as the Daughter in Law is doing everything. 

I got their house put on the market - I found them an apartment - I set up a new bank account - I got all the bills transferred over to me - I correctly all their late fees by calling each company - I lowered their insurance by calling their company.  I got their cars inspected and insured.  I filed for COSA for DH's father - I set up power of attorneys for them.  I went shopping and got them all new things for their apartment - including a new couch.  I am getting the old house painted and winterized to sell.  I made a budget for them with their funds in order to pay down their debt - I took over the bills so they are paid properly.  My husband and I put our names on the new apartment lease - the Peco and Comcast bill because they have such bad credit.  You name it I have done it and I am exhausted.

They move on November 2nd.  I took off of work on November 1st - I will get the keys to the new place - clean it - set everything up and food shop for them - have the cable - phone and internet hooked up- so on the 2nd all they will have to do is move in.  Once they move out of the house - I will have the house gutted, cleaned, painted and winterized - I hope to have this all done by November 15th.

Like I said I have basically done all of this on my own - the other Daughter in Law has helped - and the one daughter that is living there has cleaned out some things from the house - but other than that it has been all me.  On top of everything - most of the kids are giving me a hard time because they are losing their childhood home - or a list of other excuses why they cannot help - which makes my job harder trying to get everything done - the funny thing is this is all good for DH"s parents - but it seems scarifying for the children - they are just so selfish.

I already did all of this stuff once with my parents and now I have to do it again with DH's parents.  I just need it to be done already.  I have to say DH's parents are so very happy though that I am helping them and getting them out of a home that should be condemned and into a nice safe place to live and getting their bills back under control.

So this post is not a total loss - here is some cute pictures of my bug.  He always makes my day brighter.

Friday, October 11, 2013

Pumpkin Patch 2013

We went to the pumpkin patch last Sunday.  It was usually hot - but we enjoyed ourselves.  Colin loved running around the farm.


He was not too happy about sitting on the pumpkins though for a picture.

We let him pick out his own little pumpkins and he thought they were balls and kept throwing them on the ground.  Hey they do look like balls in his defense.

Then we went to visit the animals - it was a fun morning.



Monday, October 7, 2013

Hi - I am back

I have not had much to say and thought no one was reading really so I stopped posting -but I am posting now because I need to get some things out and this blog has always been my place to vent.

First off - my baby boy is 20 months old - not sure how that happened - we are entering the toddler tantrum stand that I am not too fond of - he loves to throw himself on the floor and cry like the world is ending when he goes not get what he wants.  Then there are those moments when he ask for a kiss or gives you a big hugs and you forget that he just melted down for 15 mins over an apple.



Now on to me.  I had to have ear surgery about three weeks ago.  I went to the dermatologist because my friend told me she did not like the looks of a mole on the top of my left ear.  This was about 5 weeks ago - the doctor biopsy it and it came back advance cancerous cells - so I had to get the mole taken off - at first I did not think it was going to be a big deal - but with the top of the ear there is no fat and the fact that they had to take 5mm off on each side to clear the margins - so I had to go to a plastic surgeon to reconstruct my ear.  I ended up with 40 stiches - and a 2 hour procedure and put on pain medicine.

It was healing pretty good until last week when my son hit me hard in the ear and it started gushing blood - I had a full on panic attack because I was alone with the baby - not sure if I was going to have to take myself to the hospital or not - the bleeding did stop but it turns out Colin popped some of my stiches - it was all swollen and bruised again.  I had to go back in and this time they glued it.  I have an appointment tomorrow to see how it is healing.  I will never ever go tanning or be in the sun without sunblock again.  Here is my PSA for the day - WEAR SUNSCREEN!

Now onto my inlaws.  Oh what a mess I have on my hands with them.  It all started about 6 months ago.  My mother in law asked me to help her sell the house - she knew she could not handle it anymore and needed to get out and since I work for a real estate lawyer she thought I could help.  We my in laws live in a bad neighborhood and there house has not been kept up with at all.  My sister in law also lives there with her boyfriend and baby.  Honestly no one should be living there - it is really poor living conditions.

The first step was to find my in-laws a one floor one bedroom apartment.  We went searching and found one they liked.  Next step is to list the house for sale - which I did.  Then I was to open a new bank account which I did because I was to take over the bills because apparently the sister in law was doing them and doing a poor job of it. 

Well I just got all of the information last week and doing a poor job is a huge huge understatement - they are so far behind in everything and I have no clue where all the money was going.  It is truly sad but I think in a couple of month I can get things under control.  I just feel so bad that this situation has gone on as long as it did.  The even sadder thing is they have 5 children - and me the daughter in law is the only one trying to help me.

So they move in their new apartment on Nov 1st - I am nervous about the sister in law - scared she will not leave the house - even though she knows she has to go - she has basically been living there rent free for years.  I plan on winterizing the house and hopefully getting it sold soon - I hope everything can be done by the end of the year.

I have a lot more to say but I guess I will save them for other posts.




Tuesday, July 2, 2013

Things I am loving

I have really been getting into the fashion blogs - I have so many clothes and I love clothes but I have a hard time putting things together and an even harder time putting accessories with said outfits.

I am really into costume jewelry now as a way to change up a look of an outfit without spending a fortune.

So as I was looking at various fashion blogs I notice a common thread - a lot of these girls were wearing Sira & Mara jewelry and I have to say I was impressed.  Very cute necklaces and bracelets for very affordable prices.

Here are some of the things I got so far - it seems like they update we new pieces pretty often as well.

 
 
I am wearing my anchor pieces today and have already gotten compliments.  You have to check them out!!!

Wednesday, June 19, 2013

Struggling with Colin

I need some help or advice please blog world.  It is regarding my son and his behavior.  Apparently he is have some major issues with the other children at his daycare - I guess you could call him a bully. It seems like everyday when I pick him up from the sitter she tells me it was hitting someone or pushing one of the older kids or biting one of the kids.  She said she tell him no and takes him out of the situation but that does not seem to be working.  She said she cannot give him time out because he will not stay and she does not have the time to sit there with him everytime he does something bad.

He is there with four other boys - age ranging from 3 years old to 11 months old.  He seems to pick on all of them.  Today really put me over the edge - she told me one of the parents of the other child asked about the bite marks my child left on him.  What am I going to do?

The thing is that he never acts that way around me or my husband - he has never bitten me or tried to hit me - but that being said we are really not around any children other than him.

Tell me what to do or tell me what I can tell the babysitter to do.  Do you think I need to find a new sitter - I want him to be a good boy.  Do you think this is a cry for help - or something more??  Any advice is appreciated.

Monday, June 3, 2013

My best friends wedding

Last weekend I was in my best friends wedding.  It was a great time.  She had it in her backyard and at first I could not picture a wedding in someone's backyard but it all turned out so nice.


Dana and I have been friends since we were 13 years old - we went to junior high together - we use to smoke in the bathroom together (I do not smoke anymore).

She was the one that introduced me to my husband John.  She was the maid of honor in my wedding.

She made a beautiful bride and I was so happy to share her day with her.




Wednesday, May 15, 2013

Mother's day at the shore

Since my first mother's day was horrible to say the least I decided to take action for this mothers day and book a weekend away down the jersey shore and I am glad I did.  We had a wonderful time.  Of course as my luck would have it the weather was horrible because whenever and I mean every single time I plan something - anything - I get bad weather - but we had the most of it and had a really great time and with all the family drama going on it was nice to get away from it all for a weekend.

We went down on Friday afternoon - it was really nice that day so we hit the beach as soon as we got there.


My little bug loved it - I knew he would because he loved it last year - he played in the sand for a long time - the water was too cold to go in though but you cannot beat the view.


On Satuday it rained all morning but we just spent time him the room - Colin loved the room because it was basically babyproof and he could run all around and it was somewhere new for him to explore.  he even figure out how to get on and off the bed - and now he does it at home as well.

Once the rain stopped we headed to the boardwalk and went on rides with the baby - he was not crazy about the rides but he loved walking on the boardwalk.





Saturday night it rained again - but Sunday we got up and went to the park and had breakfast - then we came home and I was able to relax the rest of the day while John took care of Colin.


I hope everyone had a good mothers day.

Monday, May 6, 2013

It has gotten worse with the Inlaws - Sadly

I need to vent - I am so upset with my inlaws.  They have finally cross the line and I am done.  As I said in my last post - Dh's SIL is angry at me for taking C to a new sitter - well I guess that in turn makes the whole family upset with me and they are treating me accordingly.

Apparently the whole family went out to a carnival yesterday and no one thought to call us and ask us if we wanted to go - I found out by a bunch of pictures being posted on facebook - the ones that especially hurt were of grandmom and her grandchildren - well two of them - minus my son - it is hurtful that they do not want to include my son in these family activities.

So of course I said something on the photo - basically saying how I wish we would of known because Colin would of loved to have been there with his grandmom and cousins, etc.  Then I was lie to by one of the sisters saying they went on a whim - which I knew was a lie because DH found out that the carnival was a planned outting - so then I called her out on her lie and then I was told that I was overracting.  I basically just told them that the only one it is going to hurt in the long run is my baby boy.

I am upset because I do not really have alot of family so I wanted my son to be close to DH's family and have his aunts and uncles and grandparents in his life but I guess I pissed them off so they are punishing my son for it.

It is sad because I have made numerous effort in the past month since Colin started a new sitter to meet up with the family - I asked if we could some over the one SILs house and kept getting pushed off and then I invited the grandparents to my house to see Colin twice and both times they canceled.  They are the ones that are going to be sorry because they are missing out on a great little boy.

Tuesday, April 9, 2013

Now there is a problem

As I said before - John and I decided to get a new sitter for Colin for when I went back to work full time.  As of right now his sister is watching him on a part time basis - and I am not sure if I want into why we were looking for someone else - but it is really just not working out with his sister for many reasons - reasons that I do not really want to go on about on the internet.  But the main reason was the distance.

I am basically in the car for two hours a day going between my house - her house and work.  It is just too much time spent in the car and too much gas being used.  When I was working part time it was okay - because I had the time but now that I am going back to work full time - I want to use my time wisely with my son and that does not include being in the car for two hours a day everyday.

So that is what I told her was the reason why we are going to take him somewhere else - I found a really good person (I hope) she has good reference and a good backround in childhood education and the best part is she is about two minutes from my house and right on my way to work - I could walk there if I wanted to. 

So to the point of my post - finally - I told my sister in law last Monday that she will not longer be watching Colin for the above referenced reason.  I gave her a two week notice and was very upfront about everything - basically I did it the proper way.  At first she was totally fine with it - saying she understood and gave me a hug and said that she will just miss seeing her nephew everyday. 

Well fast foward to this week.  It is a totally different story - she is very short with me and has Colin all packed up and ready to go and is basically kicking us out the door as soon as I get there - let me tell you that I took literally two steps in the house yesterday - this is not normal behavior for her - she likes to chat and tell me about her day with the kids, etc.   This morning was the same thing - she basically walked out of the room when I came in - no good morning - nothing.

Apparently his whole family is now upset with me - because Colin's grandparents will not get to see him everyday as well - and I guess it has finally sunk in to her that she will not be getting paid by me now - who knows.  But I need this kind of treatment from family no less like a hole in my head.

I am already nervous about taking him to a stranger next week - and I am only trying to do what is right me my and my family - yet I am hated by everyone right now - I just cannot win.  I did not even called her out on the many things that she has been doing wrong and all the other reasons I choose to have her no longer watch my son - I tried to do the right thing and be kind and considerate about it and what do I get in return - the whole family is not speaking to me. 

Monday, April 8, 2013

Easter

Easter went well - it was low key and we spent it at my sister in law's house.  I dressed buggy up in a three piece suit and he hated it.

I did get one pictures of him smiling though.  I have taken so many pictures of this kid - I already printed out and put in albums over 1000 pictures.

Things are going pretty well - we are enjoying the nice weather that has finally come our way - Colin loves being outside - now if he could just get a little steadier on his feet - I would not have to worry so much.

Yesterday I did a ton of spring cleaning and rearranged the living room and dining room to make more room for buggy to play.  I want to paint both the living room and dining room soon. 

For the dining room I want this blue color:

With this lighting fixture

Then I want this red color in the living room - but probably only on the one main wall

I am trying to get everything organized in the house because I go back to work full time soon.  Colin starts at the new daycare in one week.  Things are changing but change is good.  Once we get a routine down everything will be fine.



Wednesday, March 27, 2013

Anxiety

I have to say I am having major anxiety over having to go to work full time.  Things are tough now financially for us - as it is for many people - so I really do not have a choice in the matter but I really wish I could stay home with my little love as I like to call him.  I have waited so long for him and he is finally here and I have to spend most of my days away from him - can I just say that royally sucks.

I am lucky because I ended up getting a great deal at my job - with great pay and flexibility - so I really cannot complain on that front but I want to be home with him - I feel like I can give him all the best - better than anyone else can. 

I am just sad because I do not want to miss anything - and I had my mom home with me until I was 12 years old and I think it is important - I guess times are different now.  I would love to live back 30 - 40 years ago where all mothers stayed home with their kids - a simplier life.  Heck now my phone bill is $ 200 - back when I was a kid we did not even have cell phones - the horror.

I guess I am just rambling - I am nervous and anixous about these meetings on Friday - but now I am equiped with the proper questions - thanks ladies for your input - I am using all of your questions - but my heart is still heavy knowing I am not going to be around as much for my little love and how it will affect him.

I guess this is a stuggle working moms face everyday - tell me it will get easier.

Monday, March 25, 2013

Back to Work

I have to go back to work full time in May - sad face.  My SIL has been watching Colin for me but it is not working out - so I have to look for someone else to watch him full time - which makes me sad and nervous.

We have two meeting on Friday with potential in home daycares. 

The first one is about 2 mins from my house - she is my age - she has three children of her own (two whom stay home with her) and watched two other children - her youngest son is Colin's age. She charges $ 125 for the week.

The second one is about 10 - 12 mins from my house - she is older - late 40's and has one son in college - she watches two children - around Colin's age.  She charges $ 130 for the week.

The question I have for my blog readers is what kinds of questions should I ask??  I know I should ask about their background, schooling, if they are CPR certified, if they are registered, etc.  BUT what other things do I need to be asking.  I guess food preparation is something I need to think about and nap time and do they go on trip and do they have a car - I just do not know - I feel overwhelmed.

Any questions that you have asked or you think are important to ask please let me know.  Thank you.

Wednesday, March 20, 2013

St. Patrick's Day

St. Patrick's day is a big holiday in our house - being that my husband is 100% irish and his parents are from Ireland and most of his family lives in Ireland - it tends to be a big celebration.  One of our friends owns an Irish Pub and we go there every year for St. Patrick's Day - I was extra excited to go this year because I did not end up going last year because Colin was an infant and I did not want to leave him.

Of course my little bug got sick on Thursday night - it was viral and he was running high temps - so I decided to stay home on Saturday night to be with him - but of course we had to get dressed up and get a few pictures in.

 
Then of course photos with each of his parents
 


As you can see my husband grew out a full beard for the holiday - so he went out an got a fake beard to put on Colin for a laugh - my husband is all about doing things for a laugh.  Colin actually kept the beard on which was the funny part - oh how we torture our poor child.


Even though I did not get to go out like I had hoped to - we still had a good night together.
 

 

Tuesday, March 19, 2013

Switching to Bloglovin

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Bloglovin??

So I have been reading my news feed and it is saying that Google Reader is about to be no more??  I am confused - I acutally never switched over to Google Reader - I just always log into my blog through Blogger - so what am I missing??

Is my blog going to go Bye - Bye?  Am I going to lose all of my posts from years ago??  Do I sign up for a Bloglovin account and everything gets transferred or is it a fresh start??

Can someone please explain this to me??

Wednesday, March 13, 2013

My First Pinterest Attempt

Cheesecake Dip

I saw this on Pinterest and I thought it looked yummy and easy enough to make and I have to say it turned out great and I thought I would share it with everyone.



Cheesecake dip: 1 block cream cheese, 1 tub marshmallow cream and 2 tubs cool whip mixed together then top with 2 cans cherry pie filling....Serve with graham cracker sticks...EASY AND DELICIOUS :)

Tuesday, March 12, 2013

Update for 2013

I have been a really bad blogger - but I want to let my readers (if there is any left) know what has been going on with me.

First off I love being a mom - it is the best thing ever - Colin is always learning - he took two steps two days after his first birthday and there has been no stopping him since there - he now knows how to climb up and down stairs and get up and off the couch.  He loves Special Agent Oso and hates the park.  He is saying a couple of words now and is so nosy like his mother.

We found out about a month ago that he has a soy allergy - which was really scary and has been really hard because soy is in EVERYTHING.  We have to keep an epi pen with us at all time.  Since I am not the greatest cook I make alot of stuff that comes in a box or a bag - which is out now - we have just been feeding him alot of whole foods.  We go back in 6 months to see if he has outgrown it. 

Sleep training went horrible and he is now sleeping in our bed every night (don't judge - it is what works for us)  He starts off in his crib every single night - but at some point during the night he ends up in our bed and we like it that way - we all get a good night sleep - there is no tears or stress.  I work part time now and we need our sleep.  I am actually going back to work full time in May - which has me a bit upset - but we have to do what we have to do - but I am sure going to miss my afternoons with my bug.

John and I are doing really well.  His business not so much - we are trying to get it off the ground but with two winters of no snow it has been kinda hard.  We have two embies left and John really wants to try for another baby - but I am just so content with Colin.  For now we have paid for another year of keeping them frozen until we come to a decision.

I have put on some weight since having Colin - I am the heaviest I have ever been - I guess I am in mommy mode - where I put myself on the back burner but I am in a wedding in May so I have to try and start to get modivated to get back into shape.  I have to say since I am honestly so happy - I guess I am content and when you are content (for me) I gain weight.

If there is anyone still out there comment and let me know how you are doing.


Colin 1st Birthday Party

I know this post is so late - but my little baby is one now - how did that happen??
 
 


We had a mickey mouse themed party for him the day after his actual birthday at our home and it turned out really well - it was alot of work but we had it catered - the first time I ever had anything catered.

We had the cakes professionally done and they turned out great.

Everyone we love was there and it was a special day - I feel so blessed to have this great little guy in my life - he has brought such joy and happiness.

Next year we will do it much smaller and only have cake and ice cream - (a cake that I will bake) - I thought the first birthday should be a big deal but I am not into huge parties every year.  I rather get him a nice gift then put the money into a party.

But he had a good time and that is all that matters - love my little man.