I have decided I am going to tell my RE office about the donated medication but I am going to wait until I go in for my first appointment - especially because I have not gotten all the medication the wonderful donors said they would give me yet and also because I may get more donations. I will make a list of everything that I have and bring it with me - and see if they are fine with it - if they are not fine with it I will ask to speak with the RE himself. I do plan to fight this because we are talking about alot of money here and I do not want to be wasteful. I really hope and think they will not have a problem with it.
Onto my second problem - my husband is so very depressed about this IVF cycle. I think reality is really starting to set in for him now and he is having such a hard time with this - especially the money part of it - he keeps saying we are throwing away $ 16,000 - I try to tell him that it will all be worth it if we end up getting pregnant but he just cannot see past the money. With great risk there is great reward - I do not know why he cannot see that. I try to show him how I am trying to save us money by asking for donations - but I think he is just taking it harder because of the MFI. He was the positive one throughout every procedure and now for him to be so depressed about this - really worries me.
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I dind't wanna say anything but your totally right in telling your doctor...you dont want them to maybe order it all for you then your stuck with that giant bill..
I'll pray for your hubby its really hard I know and I know my hubby had his moments like that with our adoption and I'm sure as the bills continue there will be more, I think the best thing we can do is pray for them!
I'm sorry your DH is so blue. Thinking of both of you as you support each other and work through it. ((hugs))
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it *is* hard sometimes to get past the money of it all...when i think about all of the money we spent on 6 IUIs and 2 IVFs.....yikes!! BUT, if this is your option, this is your option, right? you have to try to think about what you are "buying" with this money. you are buying the chance to get pregnant and have a little one of your own.
i really hope that things work out and you can both find some happiness!!!
xoxo
I know exactly how you feel...we JUST found out that we have a morphology issue - which is going to mean that we have to do IVF with ICSI, and I am guessing that it will be years before DH agrees to that...
I think men tend to look more at the money issue in the beginning than the women do. (not that you are not concerned with it--you can just visualize the end result--your LO)
I also find that my husband and I go in cycles. When I am up, he is down, when he is up I am down. Part of the marriage bliss I guess. Always there to pull each other up when needed!!!
Good Luck!!!
I spoke to my father this morning - he made a GREAT comment. He said he would have paid 2 million dollars, gone into debt, etc. done anything he could to have me. If looking back he knows it was all worth it...that is all you need. The money is overwhelming, but when you hold your child - it will seem like pennies.
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