The main cause of my sadness is not only my miscarriage but also my marriage. It has taken a beating. Infertility is hard on a marriage and then add in a miscarriage and forget about it. My DH has been taken this loss very hard - harder than me because he has never had a loss before in his life - all of his family is still alive - the only funerals he has every been to were my family. Which is a good thing for him and his family but also a bad thing when it comes to coping with the loss of our first baby. He is just so reservered and quiet - I try to get him to talk about it but I can see the pain and sadness in his eyes.
I also think he wants to start trying again right away - even though he does not say that - he says I can take as much time as I need but I think in his heart he is ready and I am not ready yet.
We love each other and we will get through this - it is just amazing how much it has rocked our world - and not for the better.
As of right now I am just going to focus on what I can control which is my weight - I was always a small girl - so I never had to watch what I eat and exercise but I do now - I have been exercising for about 3 weeks now with no results - I am still in bigger pants I bought when I was pregnant - which has to change. So now I have to change my diet - if anyone has any suggestions on how to do this - I would be happy to hear them. I generally do not eat alot at all but when I do eat - it is never really healthy. I love comfort foods. Especially after everything I have been through - I have really loved my comfort food but it is showing on my body and I do not like that.
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I highly recommend Jillian Michael's Mastering your Metabolism. The book teaches you what foods you should and should not be eating to help get your metabolism in gear. It is also not a starvation diet at all, I was eating more calories per day while loosing weight.
Hey! I can very much relate to the weight issues. I haven't endured what you're going through, but I do know that since hearing of my diagnosis, all I want is comfort food. It's unfortunate that I personally use food as a crutch, but it needs to stop. I know what to do, what to eat ... it's just the getting into the swing of things that's hard. My hubby was a personal trainer for many, many years before becoming a teacher. I actually started a blog that focuses mainly on food since I'm supposed to follow some special fertility diet. Anyways, I post recipes I come across that are enjoyable and healthy. Check it out if you want. Here's the link:
http://fortheloveoffrenchfries.blogspot.com/
I don't have much to add, because unfortunately I'm in the same boat as you are. It sucks.
I did buy the Hungry Girl book and like it...I just have to follow it.
Good luck and KUP!
IF really can take a toll on a marriage. It was one of the many factors that ended my first marriage. But honestly, we werent strong enough to get through something like that. It seems like to me that you and your hubby have a very strong marriage. And even though you are going through something awful, just keep leaning on each other. You WILL get through this ;) And I wanted to mention on your other post about commenting on other people's posts. Maybe there's some reason why you cant, like maybe it's just a small way the universe is telling you to take care of you, and not worry about the rest of us:) Because whether you comment or not, we are all still reading, hoping and praying for you...
sending hugs... Even in the darkest days, you are "lean to"s for one another. You may find yourself falling but as long as you lean into one another, you wont fall...
I wish I had some advice on the weight loss front, but I don't have any. I am just trying to keep it simple, eating healthy foods, watching fat and calories. And exercising more.
I do agree that IF is rough on a marriage. That's why I try and plan dates and getaways for us. It's hard too when you don't see eye to eye with where to go next, or when.
Hope you are having an ok day today. Not sure if you saw, but I am going to your doc tomorrow, I am switching to him. I am interested to see what he has to say.
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