It went okay. She said both John and I sound depressed and that we have every right to be after all that we have been through. She asked if I wanted to be put on medication and I said no I never want to be on anything. She asked if I could somehow get John to come to counseling - I said I highly doubt it - so she said to just try and work on him and see if he would be willing to come to at least one session to try it out. She said he really does not have any support - I have so much support from my blog and the nest boards but he has none.
She was very surprised to hear how I got all my medication for IVF donated to me from my blog and even more surprised that I got such a nice care package after my miscarriage from the girls on the nest boards. She was happy to see I get so much support and that there is still nice, kind and caring people out there in the world.
She said that I am stronger then I think I am and I do not give myself enough credit for going through everything I have been through in my life and she said I was very resilient.
I am going back in two weeks - not really sure if I will continue to go for a long period of time - we will see how the next couple of session go and then I will decide from there. She is nice and I like her but I really do not know what I want and I am not sure if she can help me with that - we shall see.
4 comments:
Its good that you are going.
I went for counseling a few years back for another reason. I had 6 sessions. At the time I felt it was not working, but afterwards I felt better. It did not take away my problems, it did not make everything suddenly ok, but it did help the way I thought and the way I looked at things.
Keep with it for a while, it may help.
It is great to have so much support
Take care
x
I think you need to go a few more times before you can "see" progress. My aunt is a therapist and always reminds me that depression is a chemical reaction that medication can fix, I think its great you want to do it without drugs, but maybe you shouldn't completely rule them out. Hey...we like our IF drugs don't we?? Anyway, I am glad that you are able to talk to someone face to face, as much support as we get online sometimes a hug is valuable. I promise that an email is coming soon, I have been away from the internet all weekend! j
I'm glad to hear the first session went well and I hope the counseling situation works out. The thing I liked most about counseling is that for 60 minutes I got to focus on me and not worry so much about if how I said or explained or worded something came out right. Like with my husband, I had to be careful how I said stuff because he was going through infertility, too. And with my friends, I had to be careful how I said stuff because they weren't going through infertility. And I agree with your counselor. You are much stronger than you realize. ((hugs))
I'm glad to hear that your appointment went well. Please give therapy some time to see the positive effects. I'm a therapy veteran and I know that it takes awhile to see the benefits, but believe me it is so worth it! Also, please don't rule out the possibility of taking medication. Medication saved my life literally.
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