Okay so I think I figured out what is going on with John and I. We are having such a hard time because it is hard to come back down to reality.
What I mean is our lives for the past 2 1/2 years have been so wrapped up in TTC - we do not know anything else - we cannot just be - like we were before IF. We are on this extended break for who knows how long - with IVF looming over our heads and we do not know how to go back to just being a married couple. Does that makes any sense at all??
I think there is also a bit of defeat. I think we both feel defeated. We have tried so hard for so long and we have nothing to show for it. I think we need time to adjust.
On other note, I am on of those people who watch The Secret Life of the American Teenager. I do not know why - but it is addicting. Anyway - spolier - the season finale was last night. She named her baby John. I told my hubby she named it after him - LOL.
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I totally know what you mean. DH and I have had a hard time getting back into the swing of thing after coming back from India. It was such a stressful time so we are having trouble just relaxing into the "easy" life again. And we were only there for 7 months. I can imagine it's tough to move on from something that has been so life-consuming for 2 & 1/2. I hope you guys get back to where you want to be with each other soon.
I undrstand what you mean.. TTC & IF can take a tole on marriges:(
Me and dh are doing much better at the moment.. but let me tell you that was not the case last summer..
I have to say that with us.. the probleme was more with "me".. I was SO UNHAPPY, UNSATISFIED, DIAPPOINTED, DEPRESSED and just PLAIN MISERABLE. And I took it out on him:( I feel bad about that, but now we are both doing so much better. Thank you Jesus!!
I hope this hard time passes quickly, and that you and your dh, can get back to where you want to be with each other:)
Your in my thoughs and prayers..
HUGS,
Hannah
Oh I wish you would have posted this so much sooner. I was on the verge of cancelling my IUI for Thursday b/c my DH and I just couldn't get it together. I think my DH feels defeated too b/c of the Male Factor. Keep your chin up sweetie..it will get better. I did some super spontaneous stuff this past weekend and he is so much happier. Try it...
I totally watch secret life and love it!
I was just talking the same thing with my hubby I feel like our whole life is in limbo until we either get pregnant and have a baby or decide we never will ( which wont ever happen) I hate being in limbo I Just want to know the life of a mother and a fertile woman!
I think that IF changes you as a person. You might not be able to go back to the way you were. You might have to become something new.
Is that deep or what?
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