I am a planning so of course I started planning for daycare and as much as I would love to stay home John and I talked about it and there is just no way that we can afford it - so I have been asking my friends if they know people or places that are good. Well I get a response from one of my friends totally slamming me. She said she thinks it is horrible that I am going to go back to work and put my child in daycare. She said how could I give my infant child to a stranger. This is the whole point of planning ahead - so it is not a stanger. I totally just dimissed her. People are already saying I am a bad parent and the baby is not even here yet.
Then my godmother as me some questions last night. She asked what color I was going to paint the nursery and if I started shopping for baby things yet and if I am going to find out the gender and to all of these questions I said no. I am too scared - I am too scared to think of all the happy things that come with being pregnant and having a baby maybe on Thursday I will get good news that the mass is gone and maybe in a couple of weeks I will feel better and be heading into my second trimester and start preparing for the baby.
I am suppose to graduate from the RE on Thursday and stop my progestrone - which I am nervous about - it was nice seeing the baby ever week. I go to my first OB appointment on Friday and I already called this morning to see if I needed to call ahead for my referral for the NT scan - I will need to go to the hospital for this. They said my OB will give me the referral and the information when I meet with him on Friday - I will have to make the appointment quickly being that I will already be 11 weeks by then. I think if everything goes well at the NT Scan I will be able to finally breath.
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You're going to get a lot of unsolicited and, at times, nasty advice over the coming months. My poor aunt was so frazzled from what everyone was telling her that she doesn't want to have another child! Keep in mind, though, that women have been mothers for centuries. YOU will instinctively know what's best for your child and your family.
Everyone thinks they can add their two cents but really they're just trying to parent your child FOR you, which they have no business doing. Don't let it bother you!
Everyone has an opinion.
Try to ignore it, it's your life and you can do what you want.
i agree with jessica you get so many comments and opinons thru adoption pregnancy child raising everything...take it or leave and that nasty comment about not being a good mom because using day care was mean and that is definitley a comment to LEAVE!
Praying for you and that all is well with you and baby
i agree with jessica you get so many comments and opinons thru adoption pregnancy child raising everything...take it or leave and that nasty comment about not being a good mom because using day care was mean and that is definitley a comment to LEAVE!
Praying for you and that all is well with you and baby
That's a lot of nerve to say something like that! Some of us have no choice but to return to work. Plus, you know what they say about opinions! You are doing the best for your baby, so try to let the unsolicited comments roll off. I hope you get great NT results and can start enjoying the rest of your pregnancy! It's hard not to be fearful after what all we've been through.
You'll never please everyone, so you might as well just not try. It's your baby and you can do whatever you damn well please. Stopping PIO was scary for me too, but all turned out just fine as I'm sure it will for you too! ((HUGS))
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