Okay - so I am really struggling with how much this IVF is going to cost. We really cannot afford it.
On one hand I really want to do this - I have mentally and physically prepared myself for this - I have known it was coming. This is our only option left - we have tried everything else. I really really want a baby so very badly that my heart hurts.
One the other hand - $ 16,000.00 is a whole lot of money - we may not even qualify for a loan and if we do it will put us in major debt.
All of my friends and family think I should wait a year - give my body and mind a rest - save money and then try for IVF.
On one hand I know they are right - I am only 27 - and it would be nice to have some money saved - maybe not all of it but some of it - and that way I would not have to borrow so much.
But on the other hand, I have been trying for almost three years and I am so tired of waiting and being in limbo - and even if we do save - we will probably not be able to save $ 16,000.00 in only a year.
I do not know what to do. I really don't. I am praying for some answers - the right answers and the right decision.
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I'm so sorry you have to struggle with this. It is a very difficult decision to make. *hugs*
Sweetie, that sucks. IF is just so stressful as it is and then to have to worry about all the $$$ stuff, too, really sucks. I wish I could give you the answer. You will come up with the right one. ((HUGS))
This is a very hard decision to make. I wish I could give you the right answer, but I don't know what the right anwser is "for you".. I'm mad about your situation it's just not fair..
I will never forget when I was told by a nurse that since I was "officially" seeing my Dr. for "infertility" my insurance wouldn't cover anything. Because I was choosing to get pregnant. I knew it would probably happen, but it still made me very frustrated. SO.. they will pay for women "to choose not to have a baby". But won't pay for women who choose to have a baby, but cannot due to medical problems.. This is a tragiaty!! I know every one has heard this type of thing before, but I really feel this way.. I'll stop ranting now...lol
All I can say is I hope you do what is best for you and your husband, not anyone else:)
I'm so sorry you guys are having such a tough time with this, and I'm praying that you both find peace, no matter what you choose.
I am so sorry for you and can truely say I understand as we just made the tough decision of stopping going to our RE and trying some other things. We just decided we couldnt put ourselves in the finanical strain for something that wasnt even guarenteed but you have to do what is right for you and your hubby. Now ewere trying acupunture which while it isnt cheap is cheaper and has had success for a lot of women. And changing all we can, taking the right vitamins, eating healthier, exercise, whatever we can...its scary though I know...I'm so sorry you have to go through this also :(
Praying for you!!!!
I am so sorry you're struggling with this. i have been there, and know what you are feeling. Hang in there.
I'm so sorry your struggling so much...we can't afford IVF either. It's killing me too, because I know that's our next step. you will be in my prayers, that God will give you wisdom and guidence.
I don't have any patience either. I know the feeling that once you decide what you want to do, you just want to do it. Right then. Waiting a year I'm sure sounds suffocating. I hope you guys come to a decision soon so you can rest your mind.
:( yuck. so sorry that you have to deal with this. i wish this was a "right" for us instead of a privelage.
gl with your decision!
I am so worried that I will be in your shoes sooner than later. We couldn't afford it either. But how could we wait? Are you sure you could wait a year? Gosh, that's a long time in TTC time, and I think it's easier said than done. I will say a prayer for you and your DH. When you make your decision, be a peace with it, and move forward knowing that you are doing the right thing for you. Best wishes and I'm sorry. You will be in my thoughts. One more thing, if it works, it will be worth every penny!
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